How To Overcome The Problem Of Lack Of Self-Confidence? People Who Have Been Bitten By Snakes Since Then Have Less Worries About Other Things In Their Lives

How To Overcome The Problem Of Lack Of Self-Confidence? People Who Have Been Bitten By Snakes Since Then Have Less Worries About Other Things In Their Lives

In This Article, We Are Going To Talk Briefly About The Term Familiar Name Of Self-Confidence, However, Instead Of Referring To Clichés, We Went To The Famous Coach David Kelly To Ask for His Point Of View Regarding This Term.

What follows is a translation of Mr. Kelly’s talk on self-confidence. Since this is one of the web lectures, we tried to keep the tone of the speech.

One day, my best friend, Brian, worked on a project. He was building a horse with the head that our teacher had given us. One of the students, sitting at his desk watching Brian at work, leaned forward and told him, “Give it too much; it bears no resemblance to a horse at all,” Brian was taken aback when he heard this. The horse crushed the flower and threw the piece of clay into the flower bucket. I never saw Brian sculpting again.

I do not know how often this happens. When I tell Brian’s story in my class, many people want to say to me after class and from similar experiences about how a teacher took their motivation away from them or how one of the students oppressed them.

Some prefer not to look at themselves as creative people. And I see this neglect happening in childhood, and it penetrates the depths of human beings and becomes ingrained, even when they reach adulthood.

We see a lot like this. When we have a workshop or work with employers together, we end up at a point where it is vague and unconventional. Suddenly these stubborn mobile managers rush in and say that an important call is needed.

They catch and take the way out and make people very upset.

When we walk up to them and ask them what is going on, they say something like you are not that type of creative person. We know this is not true if they follow the work process.

That’s why I’ve examined our fear of being judged. You do not do anything because you are afraid others will think of you. If you do not speak creatively, others will feel you, and I made an extraordinary discovery when I met the psychologist Albert Bandura.

I do not know if you know Albert Bandura. Along with world-renowned psychologists such as Freud, Skinner, etc., he is one of the influential people in psychology. Sadly, Bandura died in July 2021 at the age of 96.

In short, I went to see him because he often works only on the issue of morbid fear, which is very interesting to me. He had developed a method, a kind of methodology, that results in the treatment of people in a short time.

He treats many people with morbid fears within four hours. We talked about snakes. I do not know why we talked about snakes. But we talked about snakes and their fear of them as a morbid fear.

This talk was delightful and fascinating.

“You know, there is a snake in the next room, and we want to go there.” Most people say, “It is not possible; I certainly will not go there if there is a snake in that room.”

But Bandura has a step-by-step process that has been highly successful. He brings people in front of this two-way mirror from which they can see inside the snake’s room, and he calms people down.

And then, step by step, he moves them, and they stand on the doorstep of the open door and look inside, and Bandura does something to calm down in this situation, and then step by step, with tiny steps, they enter the room, Leather gloves are like welding gloves, and they eventually touch the snake. And when it came to handling the snake.

Everything was better than good. These people, who have been afraid of snakes all their lives, used to say things like, “Look how beautiful this snake is.” And put the serpent on their feet.

Bandura called this process “guided domination.” I love this phrase: guided domination. And another thing happened, people who go through these steps and touch the snake after that are less worried about other things in their lives.

They work harder and have more endurance. And in the face of fractures, they recover faster and return to activity.

 They gain a new level of self-confidence, and Bandura calls this self-confidence “self-sufficiency” – the feeling that you can change the world and get what you want to do.

Yes, the meeting with Bandura occupied my mind because I realized that this famous scientist has documented and scientifically proven what we have seen in the last 30 years.

We can force people who are afraid of not being creative to go through a step-by-step process, something like a series of small successes, turn their fears into cognitions, and surprise themselves. And this is a fantastic transformation.

We always see it at Stanford School of Design. People from all walks of life think they are just analysts. They move between our set and our process step by step; they build trust and look at themselves differently. And they are emotionally aroused when they come to the fact that they are now looking at themselves through the eyes of an innovator.

That’s why I thought to myself, one of the things I do today is to introduce you to this inner journey. This trip reminds me of Doug Dietz. Doug Dietz has technical skills.

He designs medical imaging equipment and large medical imaging equipment. Doug Dietz worked for General Electric, and he had a great job there. But at some point, he faced a critical moment.

He examined an MRI machine at the hospital when he came across a young family.

There was a little girl there who was scared and crying. And Doug was very disappointed to learn that nearly 80 percent of the sick children at the hospital had to use anesthetics because of his speech devices. And that was very frustrating for Doug. Because so far, he was very proud of what he was doing. He saved lives with this device. But the horror of his machine was painful for the children.

At the time, he was taking a course at Stanford School of Design. He was getting acquainted with our process, design thinking and empathy, and constant prototyping, And he was honored to apply his new findings and do extraordinary work.

He wanted to redesign the entire medical scanning experience. And that was the result.

He turned the photography process into an adventure for kids. He painted the walls and the body of the device And forced the operators to be retrained by pediatricians, just like the staff of children’s museums. And now that the kids are in, this is an experience for them. They talk to the children about the shipwreck.

When the kids are in the middle, the staff tells them, “Well, now you want to get on a pirate ship, but stay very still because we do not want the pirates to find you.”

And the results were awe-inspiring. Well, 80% of children used to need sedatives, and now about 10% of children need sedatives. Both the hospital and General Electric are pleased. Because they no longer need to summon an anesthesiologist in a row, they can scan more children in one day. So the quantitative results were outstanding. But the results that Doug cared about were more qualitative.

She was standing next to a mother waiting for her child to come out of the scan. When the little girl came out of the scan room, she ran to her mother and said, “Mom, Mom, can we come back tomorrow?”

I heard Dog’s story many times, the story of his transformation and the stunning design that came with it, but I never saw him tell the story of this little girl without tears in his eyes.

Doug’s story happened in a hospital. I know one or two things about the hospital. A few years ago, I felt a lump on one side of my neck, and it was my turn to sleep on an MRI machine. It was a cancerous mass, and I had a 40% chance of surviving.

While you spend time with the other patients wearing your pajamas, and everyone you see is thin and pale and waiting for your turn to go to the radiation room, you think of many things. Most of all, do you think about whether you can cure this disease? But what I felt most about was my daughter’s life would have been like without me. But you also think about other things.

I was thinking, what is left of me on earth? What was my mission? What should I do? I was happy because I had so many options. We worked in the health sector from kindergarten to diploma and developing countries.

So there were a lot of projects I could work on them. But at the time, I was determined to do what I wanted most to do – to help people, as much as possible, regain the creative trust they had lost during their lifetime. And if I survived, that was what I wanted to do, and as you know, I stayed.

I believe that when people gain confidence – and we always see that at Stanford’s design school and its IDEA – they start working on something that matters in their lives.

We see people giving up what they have and moving on to a new path. We find that more and more exciting ideas come to their minds. So they can choose one of the better ideas. And they make better decisions.

I know that at TED, you have to have things in your bag that change the world. They all have this changing thing. If I have one, this is to help make my dream come true. I hope you join me in this adventure – you as thought leaders.

Please do not allow anyone to divide the world into creative and non-creative as if creativity is a God-given talent; you made people understand that everyone is naturally creative. And these natural people have to let their ideas fly.

And that they should achieve what Bandura calls self-sufficiency, That you can make your dreams come true and reach the point of creative self-confidence and touch the snake.